Physical boundaries for christian dating couples
But first, there’s something I really, really need you to hear: This post is not meant to shame you if you’ve already make sinned—big or small—with a guy. I’m not talking about the kind of mild-mannered, easily-overcome addiction I have to a certain raspberry chocolate-chip gelato right now.
Trust me—I’ve been there, and I have nothing but love and compassion for you and your situation. I’m talking about a physical addiction that comes from things like drugs more often than ice cream.
A few of you posted comments asking why we couldn’t just stop the physical side of our relationship instead of having to break up.
” where I shared that my heart got shattered when I broke things off with a guy I had been dating married-style.
When Teresa and I first started dating and were deciding whether or not to be “hands off,” we asked our Dad’s about what they thought. However, I was looking for more definitive answers. Is it okay to have physical touch with your girlfriend? There is a lot of teaching out there that promotes hands-off courtship. As I’ve listened to conversations about physical touch, I’ve discovered several misconceptions we have about it when it comes to courtship. And we have to be real about that in order to truly understand its place in courtship. Obsessive touch when dating is often because of something unhealthy in the relationship.
Not long ago, I pulled out the shoebox and reread each letter, experiencing all over again the excitement of a new relationship, the uncertainty of reciprocated feelings and the hesitancy to let my heart run away with me.A healthy couple needs to constantly communicate about touch even if they make a specific commitment. It can also bind the couple to a commitment that isn’t necessarily needed for purity. I wonder what Isaac and Rebecca did, since they’re the classic example of courtship. It literally means “to have sexual intercourse.” Paul is actually quoting what they had written him about: “It is good for a man not to touch a woman.” He responds in verse two by saying “to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife and every women her own husband.” This passage isn’t talking about simple physical touch, but is acknowledging the temptation to sexual sin and that it’s good for a man to have one wife and a woman to have one husband because of it.Sometimes commitments like this give a false sense of maturity. I think there’s an even more biblical way than just declaring “hands-off.” Though scripture doesn’t address touch in courtship directly, there are numerous key principles we can pull from it to help us sort through this issue.Today, we even did sexual acts, though we did not go all the way.I am wondering if it is possible to return this relationship to a place where it is glorifying to God. My dear wonderful friend: Thank you for your honesty here and sharing such a personal thing.